八字中六親的判定方法各家不同,在實際中要怎么選用?
現代人所謂的(de)(de)六(liu)親,就(jiu)是父、母、兄、弟(di)、妻、子等(deng)親屬的(de)(de)泛(fan)稱(cheng),也(ye)包括親戚朋友等(deng)社會關系(xi)中的(de)(de)人。在八字(zi)命理中,六(liu)親的(de)(de)確定(ding)方法(fa)一直以來都有爭議(yi),就(jiu)連命理學經典的(de)(de)四本書《五行(xing)精紀》、《淵海子平》、《三命通(tong)會》以及《滴天髓闡微》中的(de)(de)說法(fa)都不統(tong)一,有些甚(shen)至差別很大(da)。
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我(wo)們(men)先來看下印(yin)星(xing)。印(yin)星(xing)為(wei)(wei)母(mu)(mu)(mu)(mu),這是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)共識,但是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)正(zheng)印(yin)偏(pian)印(yin)那個為(wei)(wei)母(mu)(mu)(mu)(mu),各家說(shuo)(shuo)(shuo)法(fa)又有(you)不(bu)同。有(you)些人認(ren)為(wei)(wei)不(bu)管男(nan)女陰陽(yang),正(zheng)印(yin)就是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)母(mu)(mu)(mu)(mu)親(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin),比如(ru)《淵海(hai)子(zi)平》。有(you)些人認(ren)為(wei)(wei)日主不(bu)管陰陽(yang),都(dou)以(yi)陽(yang)干的(de)(de)(de)正(zheng)印(yin)為(wei)(wei)母(mu)(mu)(mu)(mu)親(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin),比如(ru)《三(san)命(ming)通會(hui)》定(ding)(ding)(ding)(ding)陽(yang)干之母(mu)(mu)(mu)(mu)為(wei)(wei)正(zheng)印(yin),陰干之母(mu)(mu)(mu)(mu)為(wei)(wei)“偏(pian)印(yin)”。另外,《滴天(tian)髓(sui)》中以(yi)“印(yin)”為(wei)(wei)母(mu)(mu)(mu)(mu)“財”為(wei)(wei)父(fu),不(bu)分偏(pian)正(zheng),但任鐵樵在《滴天(tian)髓(sui)闡微》卻(que)推翻原著,認(ren)為(wei)(wei)印(yin)為(wei)(wei)父(fu)母(mu)(mu)(mu)(mu),不(bu)分偏(pian)正(zheng),即正(zheng)印(yin)偏(pian)印(yin)都(dou)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)父(fu)母(mu)(mu)(mu)(mu)。我(wo)猜測《滴天(tian)髓(sui)》的(de)(de)(de)說(shuo)(shuo)(shuo)法(fa)來源于納(na)音(yin)(yin)定(ding)(ding)(ding)(ding)六(liu)親(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin)的(de)(de)(de)方法(fa),因為(wei)(wei)《五行(xing)(xing)精紀(ji)》中說(shuo)(shuo)(shuo):“土(tu)命(ming),以(yi)火為(wei)(wei)母(mu)(mu)(mu)(mu)”,比如(ru)年柱納(na)音(yin)(yin)為(wei)(wei)土(tu),則其他三(san)柱中有(you)納(na)音(yin)(yin)為(wei)(wei)火的(de)(de)(de)就是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)母(mu)(mu)(mu)(mu)親(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin)(有(you)人說(shuo)(shuo)(shuo)其他干支有(you)火即是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)母(mu)(mu)(mu)(mu)親(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin)),所以(yi)“祿命(ming)法(fa)”定(ding)(ding)(ding)(ding)六(liu)親(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)只看五行(xing)(xing)屬性的(de)(de)(de)。除了這些書中的(de)(de)(de)說(shuo)(shuo)(shuo)法(fa),目前在網上還(huan)有(you)人把正(zheng)印(yin)定(ding)(ding)(ding)(ding)為(wei)(wei)生母(mu)(mu)(mu)(mu),偏(pian)印(yin)定(ding)(ding)(ding)(ding)為(wei)(wei)繼(ji)母(mu)(mu)(mu)(mu)的(de)(de)(de)。所以(yi)六(liu)親(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin)中的(de)(de)(de)母(mu)(mu)(mu)(mu)親(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)誰(shui)(shui)都(dou)沒(mei)有(you)定(ding)(ding)(ding)(ding)論,更不(bu)要說(shuo)(shuo)(shuo)其他的(de)(de)(de)六(liu)親(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin)了。肯定(ding)(ding)(ding)(ding)有(you)人會(hui)反駁我(wo)這種“六(liu)親(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin)沒(mei)有(you)定(ding)(ding)(ding)(ding)論”的(de)(de)(de)說(shuo)(shuo)(shuo)法(fa),但是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)綜合(he)各家各派,誰(shui)(shui)都(dou)有(you)理,比如(ru)《淵海(hai)子(zi)平》以(yi)正(zheng)印(yin)為(wei)(wei)母(mu)(mu)(mu)(mu),自然是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)沒(mei)有(you)問(wen)題(ti)的(de)(de)(de),任鐵樵認(ren)為(wei)(wei)兒子(zi)不(bu)能克父(fu)親(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin)(qin),所以(yi)把正(zheng)偏(pian)印(yin)定(ding)(ding)(ding)(ding)為(wei)(wei)父(fu)母(mu)(mu)(mu)(mu),也(ye)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)倫理綱常,又豈(qi)能說(shuo)(shuo)(shuo)誰(shui)(shui)才是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)定(ding)(ding)(ding)(ding)論呢?
八字中父(fu)(fu)(fu)親的(de)(de)找法也有很(hen)多說法。一(yi)種說法是(shi)(shi),因(yin)為(wei)(wei)父(fu)(fu)(fu)親是(shi)(shi)母(mu)(mu)親的(de)(de)配偶,所(suo)以(yi)是(shi)(shi)合正印的(de)(de)天干就(jiu)是(shi)(shi)父(fu)(fu)(fu)親,也就(jiu)是(shi)(shi)偏財。比如說日主為(wei)(wei)“甲”,則正印癸(gui)水為(wei)(wei)母(mu)(mu)親,戊(wu)癸(gui)合,所(suo)以(yi)戊(wu)就(jiu)是(shi)(shi)父(fu)(fu)(fu)親,戊(wu)為(wei)(wei)甲的(de)(de)“偏財”。這(zhe)種說法見(jian)于(yu)《淵海子(zi)平》和《三命(ming)通會》,從倫(lun)(lun)理(li)上(shang)說,財克(ke)(ke)印,所(suo)以(yi)父(fu)(fu)(fu)親是(shi)(shi)克(ke)(ke)母(mu)(mu)親的(de)(de),但是(shi)(shi)這(zhe)樣(yang)一(yi)來父(fu)(fu)(fu)親就(jiu)受兒子(zi)克(ke)(ke)制,所(suo)以(yi)任鐵樵才說這(zhe)樣(yang)不合人倫(lun)(lun)所(suo)以(yi)定印為(wei)(wei)父(fu)(fu)(fu)母(mu)(mu),所(suo)以(yi)《滴天髓(sui)闡微》中將印星定為(wei)(wei)父(fu)(fu)(fu)母(mu)(mu),將父(fu)(fu)(fu)母(mu)(mu)都定為(wei)(wei)“生我者”(與六爻中定六親的(de)(de)方法類似)。還有一(yi)種說法,就(jiu)是(shi)(shi)在(zai)《五行(xing)精紀》中的(de)(de)納(na)音(yin)取六親,比如木命(ming)人,取土為(wei)(wei)父(fu)(fu)(fu),因(yin)為(wei)(wei)土克(ke)(ke)水,就(jiu)是(shi)(shi)父(fu)(fu)(fu)克(ke)(ke)母(mu)(mu)。
父(fu)母的(de)定(ding)法(fa)都(dou)如此繁雜(za),兒(er)(er)女(nv)的(de)定(ding)法(fa)就更是(shi)(shi)說法(fa)不(bu)(bu)一(yi)。現在(zai)很多人不(bu)(bu)分男女(nv)八(ba)字(zi),都(dou)以(yi)(yi)食神(shen)傷官(guan)(guan)(guan)(guan)為(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)子(zi)(zi)(zi)女(nv),但是(shi)(shi)古代(dai)人不(bu)(bu)是(shi)(shi)這(zhe)樣定(ding)的(de)。《淵海子(zi)(zi)(zi)平》中(zhong)(zhong)認(ren)為(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)男人的(de)七殺(sha)(sha)為(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)兒(er)(er)子(zi)(zi)(zi),正官(guan)(guan)(guan)(guan)為(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)女(nv)兒(er)(er);女(nv)命(ming)則(ze)以(yi)(yi)食神(shen)為(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)兒(er)(er)子(zi)(zi)(zi),傷官(guan)(guan)(guan)(guan)為(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)女(nv)兒(er)(er)來定(ding)。《三命(ming)通會》則(ze)認(ren)為(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)陽男七殺(sha)(sha)陰男正官(guan)(guan)(guan)(guan)為(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)兒(er)(er)子(zi)(zi)(zi),反之為(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)女(nv)兒(er)(er);女(nv)命(ming)則(ze)以(yi)(yi)食神(shen)傷官(guan)(guan)(guan)(guan)定(ding)女(nv)兒(er)(er)和兒(er)(er)子(zi)(zi)(zi)。古人為(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)什么把男命(ming)的(de)兒(er)(er)女(nv)定(ding)為(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)官(guan)(guan)(guan)(guan)殺(sha)(sha)?因為(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)兒(er)(er)女(nv)是(shi)(shi)妻(qi)子(zi)(zi)(zi)生(sheng)(sheng)的(de),妻(qi)子(zi)(zi)(zi)為(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)財,財生(sheng)(sheng)官(guan)(guan)(guan)(guan)殺(sha)(sha)。所以(yi)(yi)男人八(ba)字(zi)的(de)六親(qin)是(shi)(shi)以(yi)(yi)兩(liang)個女(nv)人為(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)中(zhong)(zhong)心(xin)展(zhan)開(kai),前輩(bei)人以(yi)(yi)母親(qin)為(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)中(zhong)(zhong)心(xin),有(you)父(fu)親(qin)、祖輩(bei);后輩(bei)人以(yi)(yi)妻(qi)子(zi)(zi)(zi)為(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)中(zhong)(zhong)心(xin)展(zhan)開(kai),有(you)兒(er)(er)女(nv)等。而女(nv)命(ming)八(ba)字(zi)則(ze)相(xiang)對簡單,我生(sheng)(sheng)為(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)子(zi)(zi)(zi)女(nv),生(sheng)(sheng)我為(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)父(fu)母,克我為(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)官(guan)(guan)(guan)(guan)殺(sha)(sha),我克為(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)(wei)財。
八(ba)字六(liu)(liu)親(qin)各家說(shuo)法不(bu)一,那(nei)么以(yi)(yi)那(nei)個(ge)為標準呢?目前大(da)部分人(ren)(ren)(ren)是(shi)(shi)(shi)以(yi)(yi)《三命通會》的(de)(de)定法,分陽男(nan)、陽女、陰男(nan)、陰女來(lai)定六(liu)(liu)親(qin),網(wang)上(shang)流傳(chuan)的(de)(de)“六(liu)(liu)親(qin)表”也是(shi)(shi)(shi)由此而來(lai),也有些人(ren)(ren)(ren)是(shi)(shi)(shi)用其(qi)他(ta)的(de)(de)定法,至(zhi)于說(shuo)要采用那(nei)種(zhong)方法,各人(ren)(ren)(ren)還要按照自己的(de)(de)經驗來(lai)判斷(duan)。有些女網(wang)友問我一個(ge)問題:“人(ren)(ren)(ren)家說(shuo)印多了(le)克子,這(zhe)是(shi)(shi)(shi)真的(de)(de)嗎(ma)?”我對這(zhe)種(zhong)說(shuo)法是(shi)(shi)(shi)否定的(de)(de),因為在(zai)古代,女人(ren)(ren)(ren)是(shi)(shi)(shi)不(bu)能上(shang)學(xue)(xue)的(de)(de),但是(shi)(shi)(shi)現在(zai)女性都可以(yi)(yi)上(shang)大(da)學(xue)(xue)了(le),自然印星就是(shi)(shi)(shi)文憑,何來(lai)印多克子,學(xue)(xue)歷(li)高了(le)反(fan)倒不(bu)好嗎(ma)?所(suo)以(yi)(yi)不(bu)足為憑。
我看(kan)八(ba)字,一(yi)般(ban)不(bu)以(yi)上面的(de)這(zhe)些(xie)說法來看(kan)夫(fu)(fu)妻之外的(de)六親,而(er)是以(yi)祖宗宮、父(fu)母拱、夫(fu)(fu)妻宮和(he)子(zi)女宮來判斷,根(gen)據我的(de)經驗,這(zhe)個(ge)方法相(xiang)對(dui)(dui)比較(jiao)準(zhun)確。最后要說明的(de)是,在(zai)這(zhe)么多(duo)定六親的(de)方法中(zhong),男人(ren)的(de)妻子(zi)為(wei)(wei)財、女人(ren)的(de)丈夫(fu)(fu)為(wei)(wei)官殺是定論,幾(ji)乎(hu)所(suo)有人(ren)都對(dui)(dui)其(qi)不(bu)存在(zai)異議,是可以(yi)在(zai)實(shi)際中(zhong)直接(jie)使用的(de)。
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